Sunday, September 30, 2012

Seriously, 106 Degrees?

My calendar says that October starts tomorrow, but the weather forecast says that it's supposed to be 106 degrees here in Pasadena tomorrow.  Seriously, 106?!  That sure doesn't seem like Fall to me.  But I better enjoy the heat while I can because once I get to Rhode Island, I will definitely have seasons and I'll definitely have cold.  I thought that because Newport is on the coast that it wouldn't get as cold, but everyone I've talked to who actually has knowledge of these things (unlike me) has said that it is a lot colder.  They've said that the wind off of the ocean is so cold that you have to walk with your head down for like 3 months or it will freeze off.  Oh great!  I'm really in for it.

Also, this is a very belated 30th birthday wish to my dear friend, Lindsay!  Last weekend I had the pleasure of heading up to Northern California to celebrate with Lindsay and her friends in San Fran.  It was a wonderful weekend with my friend.  Miss her already.


And, in other exciting news, t-minus 30 days until Drew gets back!  I can't wait.  I'm just so excited to be together again.  I know that Drew is more than ready to come home, too.  I went to a beautiful wedding last night for my friend, Erin, and her new husband, Charlie.  It was just perfect!  Congrats you two!  But I do miss having my date at weddings and, well, really all of the time.  Come home soon and safely, love.      

Wednesday, September 26, 2012

Book Review: Gone Girl by Gillian Flynn

I have been thinking for a long time that I should start doing some book reviews on here.  I can't say that I really have in talent in this area since I've never done it before, but I do read quite a bit and I know that people are always looking for some good book recommendations.  Or at least honest book recommendations.  So, here goes my first shot.

Gone Girl is a pretty hot book around many book club circles right now.  I actually know three different friends who just read it as part of their book club.  I'm not a book clubber (but secretly, or not so secretly now, wish I was...maybe I should add that to the RI checklist) but my friend Kristen had the book already rented out from the library so I took it with me on my trip to the bay area this past weekend.  It was a quick read because it is an entertaining, page-turner that really makes you want to know what the heck is actually going on.  But, I have to admit that when I got to the end, I still wasn't sure exactly what the heck was going on.  I don't want to totally spoil the book, but it involves the pretty rocky and very psychotic marriage of Amy & Nick.  Amy disappears at the beginning of the story on their five-year anniversary and we wonder throughout most of the book - did Nick do it?

To be honest, I don't like either one of the main characters.  And I don't really think that I am supposed to like them, but even more than that I just don't understand either one of them.  One of them, Amy, I am clearly never going to understand.  She has psychosis that it actually took a genius author to create.  It is definitely a smart book.  I wasn't left wondering about any plot elements - all the ends were tied up rather nicely.  That is saying something too, since some of the parts you think are true turn out not to be true and some of the parts you thought were false turn out to be true.  It gets a little complicated, but in a good twists & turns way.

The part that I just couldn't get over, though, is the characters.  They are all just a little too witty for me, especially Diary Amy, but I can see now that was intentional (but I definitely couldn't see it in the thick of things).  Nick in particular irked me.  I honestly cannot describe his character besides to say that he is a people-pleaser with serious daddy issues.  Even though he is seemingly "deep" he is totally unknown.  He usually did not do or say what I would have expected of him (see, more of the twists & turns), but maybe this is more of the genius of Gillian Flynn that just goes totally over my head.  In the end, I am just left completely baffled by his final decision.  It makes absolutely zero sense to me or to what I expected of Nick.  I mean, maybe if I try real hard to think very Nick-ish for a bit I could kind of understand what makes him do it.  But, it's just not the ending I wanted.  For being such a crazy book it turned out just a little too normal, and I use that word in its most abnormal sense.

My favorite character was either Nick's sister, Go (short for Margot?), or Detective Boney.  I think I liked them because they were the most relatable.  They were both strong, independent women that were equally frustrated and perplexed by Nick's final decision.  I liked that.  I guess since I'm a lawyer I also have to say that I kind of liked Tanner.  I think maybe I should get his job in my next lawyer life - Clamato anyone?  

Overall, I think I really did enjoy reading this book.  It is undeniably clever and the storyline is just irresistible.  You can't really put it down until you finish.  But, you have to be okay with the fact that you're probably just not going to understand a lot of it, especially the ending.  Again, maybe that is the whole Gillian is a genius and Jessica just doesn't get it thing.  I guess the best recommendation I can give it is to say that I now want to read some of Gillian Flynn's other books.  She has a mastery of complex plots, a page-turning writing style, and an obviously brilliant mind.  

Tuesday, September 18, 2012

Pismo Beach



Every summer the Charles Family gets together for a weekend up in Pismo Beach.  It is such a fun time for us all to be together.  We laugh, eat, play games, go on walks & just enjoy being together so much.  Even though we all live in California, we don't get to see each other as often as we would like.  I am so blessed to have such an amazing family that I just can't get enough of.  I am always so sad to leave my family and Pismo.  Wish we could turn it into a week long family trip!  This year was especially fun because we now have four little ones (all girls!) in our family, including the youngest addition who just turned five months.  I couldn't get enough of the little ones.  Everyone joked that I was hogging baby Naomi, but she is just so cute and snuggly.  I didn't want to let that love nugget go!

See, I wasn't the only one holding little Naomi...
there was plenty of her love to go around...
the whole family.
But, I did get to wear the baby bjorn so I think that
makes me a little more official.
We all loved taking walks on the beach and pier.  In Pismo, there are so many pelicans on the pier.  They just love hanging out there and are so chill.  If you ask me, I think they are a little lazy because they just sit around waiting for a handout from the fishermen.  Those pelicans are pretty funny looking creatures, but also pretty neat little guys.

Missing my Drew
Cousins!

Me and my Pops
Beautiful Little Miss Abigail, aka Goose

Wednesday, September 5, 2012

This Day & Age

I've been really bad at blogging lately.  I've definitely been thinking a lot about blogging, but that isn't exactly the same as actually blogging.  I had a goal to do at least a blog a week, but I've drastically failed at that goal.  Oh well, there's always time to start over again.

I haven't written much on here about the challenges of Drew's deployment.  I didn't really want to get myself down or anyone else, but I think it's important to remember just how much all of the military spouses and families sacrifice too.  Living in this day & age, people say we've had it a lot easier than soldiers and families in prior wars.  I get to Skype with Drew almost every day, the mail works pretty regularly, even though I have yet to see if any letters can arrive from Afghanistan but I think that has more to do with Drew's lack of writing than the mail system, and we are bombarded with news about the war.  I am very lucky that Drew is not directly involved in combat situations because I don't actively worry about him everyday.  I trust that he is in God's hands.  But, there have been a few times when I didn't hear from Drew for a few days and I began to get worried.  So I scoured the Afghanistan news websites to see if there was any bad news from Drew's district.  Thankfully, there wasn't.

But I got to thinking...if I lived in a time when there was not accessible internet or Skype, and I only heard from Drew every few weeks by letter, I wouldn't really know when to be worried.  Maybe I'd be worried all of the time or maybe I would just live my life the best I can over here because I wouldn't have the luxury of rushing to the Internet to look for the latest news.  It would just be normal if I didn't hear from him for a few weeks at a time.  Maybe my arms wouldn't ache so much from wanting to reach out and touch him as I look at him on my computer screen.  Maybe I wouldn't feel quite as lonely after I say goodnight to him but roll over to an empty bed because I would have gotten used to being on my own.  I'm not saying it would be easier to go back to the old days because I don't know if it would.  And I wouldn't trade being able to Skype with Drew for anything.  But, it's hard.  It's hard trying to live your life everyday with half of your heart on the other side of the world.  I just think it's hard no matter what, though.